The Eyes Have It

So as we move off the Body Language segment, there are some things I'd like you to remember:

• Body Language is a series of unconscious gestures that display our emotional status and thought processes.
• Most body language gestures are the same world wide but remember we are products of our culture and environment....do not jump to conclusions rashly.
• Gestures are refined or modified and become more difficult to interpret:
• as we get older and wiser
• to protect or enhance our images - public figures, speakers, , managers, teachers, lawyers, politicians etc.
• when we believe we have valid motive - if we convince ourselves that the motive is valid then we have better control over our gestures
• for deception- sales people, con artists, criminals, pathological liars
• To truly understand body language one must become an observer of people, not just specific targets:

Here are a few BL Observation exercises you should try:

• watch a favorite movie with the sound off
• sit in the car park and observe the passers by
• go to the mall or coffee shop just to observe...not just the people you are attracted to but all
• in meetings (stand up, board room etc) observe the other participants, particularly for announcements etc.
• Look for subtle signs shown by politicians, news reporters, interviewers, reality show people on tv.
• Observe, observe, observe....but don't be a stalker

submitted by Kathy Thomas