Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Liar, Liar

Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practise to deceive!

Sir Walter Scott, Marmion, Canto vi. Stanza 17. Scottish author & novelist (1771 - 1832)

We all do it. Lie. For those of you, giving a vigorous shake of the head right now or eyebrow lift or head tilt....YES, you too .

Think about it. We all come with guises that force us into deceitful positions of varying degrees. As parents, we lie, Santa, Easter Bunny, birds and bees .......as employees we lie, about our reviews, confidential information, departmental secrets.

We call lying all sorts of names: fantasy, tact, comic relief, sensitivity, secrets, vows. Lets classify Liar's body language and varying degree of skills. Level one: Fibbers Level two: Scammers Level three: Paths (Pathological Liars)

Action

Details

Skill Level

Spatial Avoidance

Liars are generally uncomfortable facing those they lie to. Creating space between them and the victim.

Fibbers Scammers Paths

Hiding

Hiding behind objects, desks, doorways, counters etc.

Fibbers Scammers

Face/Mouth Cover

Direct mouth covering to lightly touching areas around the mouth, steepling on the lips etc.

Fibbers Scammers

Fidget

Nervous tapping, foot shaking, collar adjustments, lint picking, organizing items

Fibbers Scammers

Posture Changes

Crossing legs Tensing of shoulders

Fibbers Scammers

Eye Contact

Eye shifting and not looking directly at counterpart is a good indicator but the direction of the shift could be useful: Up-Right (Creating a visual lie) Right (Creating auditory lie) Please note down right is recalling feelings, not lying. Down-Right (Kinesthetic)

Fibbers Scammers Paths

Smiling

Plastering a smile on faces, giggling

Fibbers

Fake smiling

Smiling with lips only eyes not smiling

Fibbers Scammers

Slowing down

Walking and speaking slower

Scammers Paths

Behaviour Deviation

Any extreme changes in behaviour could possibly a sign of lying.

Fibbers

Delayed Emotion

Not displaying the appropriate emotional behaviour when making statement, but a few seconds afterwards. Often cutting the emotion short after it is displayed.

Scammers

Defensive

Displaying defensiveness behaviour instead of offensive behaviour

Fibbers Scammers Paths

Indirect Statements or answers

Avoiding using direct statements and quote that he said, she said. Answering with questions or humour

Fibbers, Scammers

Unnecessary Details

Giving far more detail than necessary

Fibbers,Scammers Paths

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